I totally agree with most of the comments. Unfortunately, right now and has been an employers world for quite some time due to the economic changes and the shift in power. We as employees do not have the say that we used to have in relation to how we are treated and many are very unhappy with their state of circumstances at their workplace. I do not see this changing, yet, I see us changing. Unfortunately, we will be treated unfairly very often and we need to figure out how to deal with it by changing our thinking in order to survive in the world where we can be replaced in a second by someone else wanting our job and the employer is well aware of this, or this trend would end. If we change our thinking by knowing we have a job, we have a choice to leave when it gets unbearable then we take back our power and stop giving it to others who harass us. I am self-employed and I will tell you it is the hardest job I have ever had because I am responsible to make sure everything gets done without any support except that from God and that is truly all I need. I have learned that praying for those who harass me will take care of the problem more often than not. I was told in early recovery to pray for those people to have all of the desires of their heart and do this for two weeks and the problem will resolve. It has worked many times. I also put those people in a "God box" which for some reason the act of putting their name down on paper and placing it in a box to pray for them, when I remember to do so, simply takes it off of me and gives it to the "God of my understanding." While all do not believe in God, I believe most believe in a "higher power" which will provide the same results. It is a very difficult society we live in especially in the work field, yet, we can overcome the obstacles by A/ going back to school part time to find a career that is like-minded as we are and something we truly want to be doing. B/. take courses to learn more about our field in order to better understand our field, thus, proving to be more of an expert instead of a complainer and C/ always realize we have a choice to be treated good or bad and most people will not continue to treat us bad if they get no response, thus, we keep our power and not give it to them. D/ when we become frustrated and angry we give away our power and we lose our Joy and Peace and that is easier said than done, I realize that, yet, I work with lots of clients that have a sense of entitlement and at the end of the day, they have to go home with themselves and I do not. I have to be accountable for my actions only and that is a big enough job. Charles Darwin once said, "it is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent that survive, it is the one most adaptive to change." I so understand and while I am not really that happy running a small business, I do know, thanks to you guys and your messages, that things are still really bad working for others and that is oftentimes why I keep trying to make this small business work. I can't afford to hire help and what I have hired, most have not wanted to work the way that I work, so, I work alone. It could be much worse and I don't believe we oftentimes realize what our ancestors had to do to survive, if we did, we would be more grateful for our lots in life as I need to be more grateful for my job. I so appreciate the opportunity to read your blogs as they are great and I feel your pain, I truly do. I am working on changing my attitude daily and as long as I change me, then, noone else can have my power. If I could only remember that when I get pissed off, lol.
